The term “dating” honestly scared me when I was freshly divorced. It was something I never wanted to go through or do as a mom of two. The process of it and having to open yourself up after pain and heartache seemed impossible. I waited a good year and a half before even thinking of “trying to start dating. God needed me to be in complete and full focus on Him alone.
Before I get into this topic, I want to first say that God is the ONLY thing that can fully fulfill you. Nothing can fill the void within you, but God! I strongly recommend first keeping your focus and mind on God alone before even trying to start to date. God has to fully work on you and within you to heal any wounds, and work on the scars that you may still be struggling with. God will prepare you for who He needs you to be for the one God does have for you.
You have to be fully healed, and prepared for the next chapter God has for you. He may be both working on you and the person He chose for you. Sometimes we “think” we found the one God has for us only to lead us down a road of betrayal, pain, heartbreak and whatever else has come in your path. There are many counterfeits that we have to look deeply within and at the fruit being produced from the person. We often ignore or think “it was just one time” they won’t do that to me again, but then it does happen. Again, and again, and again…
My dating experience has been rather interesting, and there are many things I have learned along the way of things I won’t just settle for. Met some really good men, but the values and spiritual walk was just different, or their life was telling a different story. The fruit wasn’t producing the right things. Through my experience, the power of discernment has been one thing I have prayed the most for. It’s hard to see who a counterfeit is and who is real. You have to look at the fruit… never settle!
Dating doesn’t have to be scary… it can be fun but also you can learn a whole lot about others and also about yourself and the things you may need to work on or things that you just can’t settle for. Allowing God to be within the journey will allow you to understand the journey. Take your time and be vigilant about letting the other know where you stand and what you will/will not settle for. Being upfront and honest in the beginning will keep those not meant for you away and those meant for you to stay.
I was watching this video where this guy was talking about counterfeits and the real. The counterfeits look so much like the real, but then you don’t really see much of God in the details of their lives. Whereas a true woman/man of God that God does bring into your life, you will see that God is in all the details of it. I want to share that video here so hopefully it can speak to you the way it did with me.
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